Making fantastic progress getting resettled in den. More to come this weekend. Seeing that this month is clearly more of an intervention month. Will look at the habit forming aspect of it once the playing field is better set.
I made amazing progress this weekend with, the den reorganization project, thanks to Roland Wise of Vestibule. We took Ikea shelves, added trim to them to make them “built-in”. They look great! This has been a project I’ve wanted to complete for 2 years now. Thanks to Roland it’s nearly complete. Just some wood putty, light sanding and another coat of finish paint to the trim – And it will be done – and, of course, the resettling and organizing too. Looking forward to getting my additional books out of storage and integrating them in to my collection – after the inevitable weed out. By the way, the addition of the Grundtal lights at the top really finish it off. Nice how they are controlled by the wall switch, so when I come in the room they provide the general light in the room.
We also, made progress with transforming one of my closets into an office alcove. We used Ikea Lack shelves to provide 3 sleek looking shelves for storage. Roland devised a way for them to be “strong like bull”, which the off the shelf Lack shelves do not seem to be in his experience. I still need to add a countertop on top of the file cabinet, now in the closet. And perhaps a cork board under the shelves. I’ll get an electrician to add a new electrical outlet at this wall, and I’ll be in business there with adequate out of view storage for my printer and scanner.
I’m realizing that this reorganizing effort is currently more in an intervention mode, rather than habit forming mode, which is necessary. Tonight I will do some resettling and look to create physical stations or places to capture the things that end up being lose ends, or forgotten. That’s where the habit forming will begin, and the opportunity to create a simple, easy and powerful system to finally be in better control of my financial matters.
In the meantime, tonight I start the resettle and create a bill paying zone, for unpaid bills to stay until they a dealt with – Ive tried this so many many times before I can’t even count. This time I’m looking to make it work and really follow through with a well thought out physical space combined with distinct space in time regularly, weekly, for me to deal with these matters. Up till now in my life, it has been catch as catch can for some reason. But I will conquer this this time, and move one.
As part of getting clear in my physical space, I’m having Roland Wise of Vestibule help me get my space in order. Specifically, my den and my bedroom. My bedroom is where begin and end the day and where I rest. My den is where I spend much of my time at home, after work, taking care of things like bill paying, paperwork etc as well as watching TV and movies – as a production space I have higher hopes for it. And I realize one of the biggest obstacles I have to getting clear and current in my financial space, is the act that my physical space for taking care of business is so disorganized. So I’m in the midst of a push to get clear and current here first (in the physical space), before I tackle the physical space.
Right now, both rooms are a mess, tousled about by being in the midst of the flux of this project. Hopefully by the end of the weekend, we’ll see some order appearing.
I’ve been playing around with my habits list contenders. Looking at natural groupings of habits that, if focused on concurrently, may help create better outcomes, magnify the results, and ultimately strengthen my efforts. Then realized that the description of the grouping itself is more a sense of being than of doing. So, i’m considering now focus on habits of being, whereby specific doings may fall out more naturally. Hmmmmm. Very interesting.
I’m pretty much starting fresh this year, with a new list. I prepared are my initial thoughts at my list of some habits I’d like to form, based on my current consciousness, and current (and persistent) frustrations.
These are in no particular order. I’ll prioritize and select ones to activate later. I’m considering taking them on in groups of habits that are related and that support each other, and that if taken on at once may more fully formulate and strengthen the new behavior as a whole.
1. Eat more consciously. Eat whole foods, perhaps according to Dr. Aieta’s Plan that I had previous success with. (Daily)
2. Start, complete and continue on a daily work-out routine in order to improve my health, lower and mange my weight, blood sugar, ability to perform (Daily)
3. Drink 8 glasses of water a day. (Daily)
4. Do 1 hour of yoga at least twice a week, in order to improve the health of my back, my posture, and reduce back pain.. (Weekly)
5. Take nutrition supplements everyday. (Daily)
6. Floss daily to maintain and improve my overall dental health. (Daily)
7. Chew my food at least 20-30 times before swallowing to improve health and digestion.
8. Cook on the weekend, making meals that I can have throughout the week.
9. Don’t eat after 8pm, unless it’s a protein rich snack before.
FINANCES & PRODUCTIVITY
1. Pay attention more regularly to my finances. Increase savings and investments. Reduce expenses. (Daily & Weekly)
2. File and or handle my paperwork consistently and regularly.
RELATIONSHIPS & GRATITUDE.
1. Pause, take care when I respond to people. Consider counting to 3 (i.e. wait three seconds) before I respond to people.
2. Write thank you notes
CONSCIOUSNESS, ATTITUDE, CREATIVITY,
1. Begin the day consciously, either in a practice of morning pages or quiet meditation, reflection.
2. End the day consciously, perhaps by writing down things I’m grateful for everyday, journaling my day, or other completion exercise.
3. Fill my creative spirit weekly, either by going on Artist’s Dates every week or similar experiences.
4. Get clear on my Life Goals and make appropriate and effective plans.
5. Create something everyday. Sketch in my sketchbook everyday. Paint on my Brushes app everyday. (Like David Hockney.)
6. Read everyday and finish a new book every month.
7. Handle things coming through me or my space to completion.
8. Complete or take action on a past incompletion everyday in order to become current.
9. Do game night, conversation night or other no media oriented activity every week.
10. Go to a movie in a theater 1-2 times a month.
11. Say no powerfully and without guilt.
12. Say yes powerfully
HOME & PERSONAL SPACE
1. Tidy my space everyday before I go to bed.
2. File and or handle my paperwork consistently and regularly.
For years and years now, ever since I was a child, I’ve always felt that New Year’s was a bit of scary holiday. You know, fear of the unknown and all. Usually upon the changing of each year, thoughts, feelings, sensations of fear would rise up in various ways and in varying degrees. Often accompanied by a fond review or pang for the delicious comfort of some wonderful experience or sense I had had that year – I suppose dwelling in the known past was comforting – these irrational fears have tended to possess me, in a visceral way, somehow at each change of year. Except for this one.
This year, mainly because of my overwhelming sense that 2012 was a very difficult year (correction, make it the last 3 years), I am very much looking forward to 2013 – and what it may bring. The difficulties I refer to are both personal in nature (which I won’t go into now, but some I’ve referred to previously) and also, more notably, societal – or, more specifically, apocalyptical.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve had my share of apocalypse fatigue lately. After successfully navigating the Mayan apocalypse, the Fiscal Cliff, Hurricane Sandy, the Nor-Easter of 2012 and the ensuing 8 day blackout, Hurricane Irene, the Debt Ceiling of 2011, and the multitude of lesser apocalypses promoted (both justifiably and unjustifiably) by our hyperactive media culture, I’ve just about had it. And I’m looking forward to a really clean slate of calm, yet exciting, possibility unencumbered by external fears or limits. Is this just natural annual New Year’s resolution energy I’m feeling? Is it the the relief of having made it entirely and wholly in one piece through the latest and hopefully last apocalypse? Could it be the ushering and renewing energy of the post apocalyptic Age of Aquarius rising? Or is it that 2013 ends in 13, the traditional number of change. Who knows? But I do have a real visceral sense of and desire for new beginnings at this particular change of years, as never before.
And so, with this rising sense of wanting a brand new beginning, and having already learned in my life that no meaningful change can really happen without some sort of structure or framework for it to happen in, I remembered ThisBlogIsHabitForming. I started it three years ago in the change over from 2009 to 2010. It brought me great success and focus early on, while I was able to manage it. And some additional personal challenges, that I hadn’t planned on, crept into my life. My ability to manage, both the blog and as well as the changes I wanted, dwindled and eventually the blog went mute. Life happened.
Now with a 2 year clean slate of inactivity here (not counting a few false re-starts along the way) I’m ready to take a whack at it again, and see what happens. Don’t they say, “If at first you don’t succeed, try try again”?
Happy New Year. Let’s see what happens. Stay tuned. More to come.
Anyone else share any of these feelings?
This year I’m trying to cook more for myself, for reasons of health, wealth, and enjoyment. A key to enjoying the experience of cooking at home is having the right music in the background to cook by. Today I dug up a CD I’ve had lying around a few years and had forgotten about: Cafe Paradiso by Steve Erquiaga. It’s a perfect CD to cook by. Instrumental guitar. Classical with a latin, flamenco feel. Played at just the right volume, I feel like I’m the star of my own cooking show. Together we made a delightful omelet with sautéed onions (with a dash of sherry vinegar), peppers and feta. So consider letting your music be your partner while cooking.
Cross posted at my other blog, “The Daily Muse”
Update: Here’s a link to a track from the CD.